OK! Let's talk in a simple way. Which win 10 version you are having there. Is it 1803 or 1809? Have you made the update settings to ask before updating or made it update automatically and even without your permission do the restart . There is an option at windows update settings that before restart ask for your permission to wait in the restart or restart now. The apps issue can be disabled as well. Click Settings ,Apps, then choose whatever you want to enable and disable. Can even prevent them from collecting location and info. Apps can be uninstalled if not a main apps that Microsoft did. Although I could uninstall some Microsoft game apps as it is a piece of cake .