Solved!
The site instructions said to place the applet in the windows/system32 folder then access it via control panel. After finding that didn't work I came across a German site that added that Win 7 64 users should put the file in the sysWOW64 folder. This added the applet to control panel. It is simple, a small window comes up with a choice for default midi device. Select the device you want as default and close out the applet and you're done. I had to reorder the devices my sequencer program detected to get the new default device as the first choice but after that all my midi files play through the port I want them to play through. What a chore. I hope you're reading this MS, you are losing your musician userbase for sure...