hi Jong, and thanks for chiming in.
I've been going back and searching this for hours.. and think I may have actually found my solution.
One is to make the transfers in safe mode (which instantly solves the problem) and the second is the permissions. I had read and tried the following before, but it had never worked. Tonight, I tried it again, and wow, it worked!
No more hang on large file transfers.

If anybody else has been having these kind of problems.. I recommend:
a. trying it in safe mode.
b. the following advice
permissions - Permissionless external drive with NTFS - Super User
I can't tell you guys how happy I am, after MONTHS of this problem with multiple drives.. Success!
Thanks very much for your input...