One thing is, you most probably have at least two settings for monitor: Windows, and your video card provider i.e. either ATI or NVidia. These may collide.
What I would do is, uninstall ATI or NVidia drivers, with everything. The job may best be done with Revo Uninstaller, get rid of everything = advanced mode. Reboot, check what Windows does.
At least with NVidia, older drivers quite often work better than latest ones. It's a sort of trial and error. The use of the original installation disc for your Mobo / video card could be a start point. Start from the beginning, proceed towards end.